I don’t consider myself an extraordinary guy, but I do feel somehow special. This feeling has led me to always search for different experiences, places and people. The same applies to my love life. As a Chilean who has lived his whole life in the same city of Chile, I find it extremely boring to settle with the obvious choice. Well, not gonna lie to you. I did settle for over 8 years with a Chilean girl. A very long relationship destined to fail, that then made me decide to go for the total opposite: short affairs with foreigners.
I had pretty clear what I wanted, until I met a girl who travels. I started dating her and it all went great at first, when there was no attachment and the fact she was leaving Chile in a month was keeping me from committing in an actual relationship. But when the sex is the best you’ve ever had, the connection you feel with the other goes beyond normal and this person starts matching all the parameters of your perfect partner, well, stuff gets complicated.
There were tears. The Norwegian traveler left Santiago and took a bus to Buenos Aires, Argentina, to take the plane back home in a few days. She cried the whole way there. Before leaving my bed, my city and my country she told me she loved me. I could have just let her go, but I couldn’t. Despite my sensibility, I decided to go after her and took the first plane I could catch going there.
I spent the happiest week of my life with her there in Baires, but after this magical time, coming back to reality was Hell. I missed her too much, and she traveling constantly just killed communication between us and, with that, the long distance relationship we had. A month after she left, she broke up with me. There is where the nightmare began. Lots of crying, almost no sleeping, never ending suffering, emotional breakdown… basically, shit all over my existence.
I thought this was never going to end, but I took some steps that helped me to finally leave this whole mess behind. The following list doesn’t represent the ultimate solution to heal your wounds after a girl who travels, but it’s what worked for me and may as well work for you.
Cry: let it all out, baby. The more you do it, the sooner you’ll get rid of the acid melting away your heart and your will to live.
Be social: sitting on your ass at home the whole day stalking the girl on Facebook won’t make you feel any better. Get out there! Go check on your friends, party, get shit faced, see new faces. There’s a world of possibilities around you. Discover it!
Fuck around: thinking you will never find love again? Looking yourself in the mirror and feeling like the most unattractive person in the face of Earth? Nothing like some shagging to shake those beliefs out of your head. Probably you won’t feel any better at first, or even will question the whole point of doing it with some random girls, but those minutes of healthy sexual workout will help you to improve your beaten up self-esteem. Not to mention you’ll feel lighter both in your head and your balls. (Although I must warn you: this may not end up well. Check ‘Fucking up and around’)
Have a near to death experience (optional): you probably will not wanna do this, but in my case being near to die in a climbing accident while I was alone in the middle of the desert changed my perspective on life quite a bit. You, just like me, won’t think about her while your biggest concern is to survive. Plus, the life changing story this experience will become is gonna make you immediately more interesting, which always helps to get laid.
Whine!: don’t keep anything in your system. Pathetic as this sounds, if you feel like writing her an extensive email about your feelings, your thoughts and whatnot, do it! There’s 1 in a million chance she’ll change her mind, but at least you’ll get all that shit off your chest. Whether she answers you with some pity message or never writes you back, after a while you’ll realize it doesn’t hurt anymore. And that, my friend, is the time when this and all of the above will have finally worked.
As I said before, this list is no guarantee of success and I don’t recommend applying every item in it. This is how I survived and moved on after falling in love with a girl who travels. Do this at your own risk, always keeping in mind that you already took the most dangerous decision first: to date a girl who travels.
You wouldn’t believe what happened after the girl who travels! Find out here.